მხოლოდ სამ თვეში – ბავშვებზე სექსუალური ძალადობის 40 შემთხვევა
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bavSvTa mimarT seqsualuri Zaladobis faqtebze zusti statistikuri monacemebis dadgena, sakiTxis specifikurobidan gamomdinare, sakmaod rTulia. ojaxebi cdiloben, aseTi SemTxvevebi ar gaaxmauron, radgan reputacias ufrTxildebian, an Tavad Zaladobis msxverpli mozardebi inaxaven amas saidumlod. Tumca statistika mainc arsebobs da SeiZleba iTqvas, rom Cadenili danaSaulis maCvenebeli sakmaod maRalia
uaxlesi, 2019 wlis 3 Tvis, statistikiT, saqarTvelos masStabiT gamoZieba arasrulwlovanTan seqsualuri kavSiris damyarebis 40 SemTxvevaze daiwyo. sqesobrivi Tavisuflebisa da xelSeuxeblobis winaaRmdeg 2019 wlis ianvar-martSi jamSi 110 danaSaulia registrirebuli, saidanac mxolod 38-ia gaxsnili.
rac Seexeba gasuli wlis monacemebs, 2018 wels arasrulwlovnis mimarT savaraudo seqsualuri Zaladobis 331 SemTxvevaze daiwyo gamoZieba, maT Soris iyo arasrulwlovnis gaupatiurebis 26 savaraudo SemTxveva da garyvnili qmedebis 81 saqme. aRsaniSnavia, rom 2018 wels 2017 welTan SedarebiT, am kategoriis dana-Saulze arasrulwlovanTa da maTi mSoblebis mxridan mimarTvianobis maCvenebeli mniSvnelovnad gazrdilia.
`realurad aseTi faqtebi, statistikur monacemebze bevrad metia, Tumca xSirad mSoblebi ambis gaxmaurebisgan Tavs ikaveben. seqsualuri Zaladoba SeiZleba moxdes yvela socialur fenaSi, ojaxs gareT an ojaxSi. Zaladobis msxverpli SeiZleba gaxdes nebismieri asakis bavSvi, rogorc gogona, aseve biWi. aqve aRvniSnav, rom moZalade umetesad bavSvisTvis nacnobi pirovnebaa~, – ambobs nevropaTologi, geStalt konsultanti (fsiqologiaSi), fsiqiatriis eqsperti, medicinis doqtori, SoTa rusTavelis saxelmwifo universitetis asocirebuli profesori Sorena vaSaZe. misi ganmartebiT, seqsualuri Zaladoba am SemTxvevaSi gulisxmobs bavSvebis gamoyenebas seqsualuri moTxovnilebis dasakmayofileblad, rac sxvadasxva formiT gamoixateba.
ra formebia es, rogor unda amoicnos mSobelma Svilis problema, ras unda miaqcios yuradReba, am da sxva sakiTxebze qalbatoni Sorena gvesaubreba.
– qalbatono Sorena, saubris dasawyisSi aRniSneT, rom Zaladoba ar aris mxolod gaupatiureba, ras gulisxmobdiT?
– diax, asea, radgan seqsualur Zaladobad iTvleba yvela qmedeba, romelsac aqvs seqsualuri elferi da romelSic Cvens SemTxvevaSi bavSvi motyuebiT an iZulebiT aris CarTuli: seqsualuri Sinaarsis SeniSvnebiT da replikebiT devna; intimur adgilebze Sexeba; pornografiuli xasiaTis suraTebis gadaReba (mniSvneloba ara aqvs es bavSvis nebarTviT xdeba Tu ara); bavSvebisTvis pornografiuli masalis Cveneba; sasqeso organoebis Cveneba; Ria saubrebi seqsze bavSvis Sokirebis an misi cnobismoyvareobis gaRviZebis mizniT; incesti; sxeuliT vaWrobis iZuleba. bavSvi xSirad ver acnobierebs, ra xdeba. grZnobs, rom raRac farul urTierTobebSi monawileobs, es samarcxvinoa da Tavi damnaSave hgonia. amitom, ZiriTadad, dums. xSirad moZalade emuqreba bavSvs, rom ar gaTqvas da masac eSinia, rom ar daujereben da damnaSavis skamze Tavad aRmoCndeba. SiSis gamo bavSvi xandaxan Tavadac ki icavs moZalades.
– principSi, moZalade marTla dasacvelia, radgan aSkarad avadmyofi fsiqika aqvs.
– sworad SeniSneT, Zaladoba Sedgeba ori komponentisgan: esaa msxverpli da moZalade. TavisTavad aucilebelia ara mxolod msxverplis fsiqologiuri reabilitacia, aramed moZaladisac, raTa es danaSauli ar gaimeoros. sxvaTa Soris, moZalade da msxverpli qmnian erTgvar rgols, anu SesaZloa Tavad msxverplma gaimeoros igive danaSauli sxvis mimarT, Tavad gaxdes moZalade. ai, es aris is mankieri wre, romlis gasarRvevad aucileblad unda imuSaos sazogadoebam, garSemomyofebSi unda iyos mudmivi mzaoba, radgan yvela droSi xdeboda aseTi SemTxvevebi. unda gauwodon xeli erTmaneTs adamianebma, radgan aravin icis, vin aRmoCndeba analogiur viTarebaSi. sazogadoeba unda mivides im Segnebamde, rom ki ar Serisxos, aramed daexmaros msxverpls, xolo moZalade uzrunvelyofili iyos fsiqologTan mkurnalobiT.
– TanagrZnobis garda raSi gamoixateba sazogadoebis daxmareba msxverplis mimarT?
– bavSvi Zalian mowyvladia, is ar aris garkveuli bevr rameSi. gansakuTrebiT es exeba qarTvel bavSvebs, radgan Cveni sazogadoeba erideba seqsis sakiTxebze saubars sakuTar SvilebTan. TiTqos skolebSi daiwyes am tabudadebuli Temis Setana, magram ara im doneze, rogorc saWiroa. swored amitom xdebian bavSvebi moZaladeebis samizne. aucileblad yvelam unda gamoviCinoT am kuTxiT gansakuTrebuli sifrTxile. xSirad deda ver amCnevs, magram mezobeli xedavs da ar unda dafaros es, unda auxilos Tvalebi mSobels. aseve mSoblebis sazrunavi da valdebulebaa Svilis darigeba, rom ar gauRos kari ucnobs, ar gamoarTvas ucnobs saCuqari, ar gahyves mas sadme. Tu liftTan dgas ucnobi, daelodos, rodis ava is da Semdeg isargeblos liftiT. Tumca, cxadia, usafrTxoebis arc es wesebia sruli garantia, rom bavSvi daculi iqneba.
– momravlda internetZaladobis SemTxvevebic. . .
– internetTan erTad marTlac mkveTrad imata Zaladobis SemTxvevebma. arsebobs statistika, Tumca rogorc ukve aRvniSneT, isic ar aris zusti. umravlesoba imdenad faravs am faqtebs, rom SeuZlebelia, daadgino – ra awuxebs Tavis TavSi Caketil mozards.
– ra unda gaakeTos mSobelma, rom daicvas Svili internetmoZaladisgan?
– unda SeuzRudoT internetis moxmarebis dro. amasTan, moerideT simkacres, raTa ar gangeridoT. mudam mzrunveli, moyvasi mSoblis poziciiT ufro axlos iqnebiT SvilTan, gagendobaT da ar dagimalavT arc erT kontaqts, romelic aqvs internetSi. aucilebelia vicodeT maTi fiqrebi, gulisnadebi, azrebi, midrekilebebi, radgan nebismier konfliqtur viTarebaSi, pirvel rigSi, mSoblebs gaandos Tavisi problemebi da ara igive moZalades, romelic sxvadasxva niRbis meSveobiT internetidan iTrevs Tqvens Svils garyvnilebis WaobSi.
– yvelaze metad ra asakSi sWirdeba bavSvs msgavsi yuradReba?
– umniSvnelovanesia gardatexis asaki, swored maSin sWirdebaT gansakuTrebuli yuradReba da daxmareba. am dros yoCobis periodi aqvT. avtoriteti aRar aris arc deda, arc mama, arc maswavlebeli. am periodSi xSiria quCaSi gacnobil ucxo adamianebze mindoba, maTTvis gulis zraxvebis gaziareba. am dros mozardebi mSoblebs iSviaTad gaendobian, ufro xSirad eqcevian ucxos zemoqmedebis qveS. bavSvebi am periodSi mimarTaven deviaciur qcevebs, raTa ufro iolad daimkvidron Tavi Tanatolebsa da saerTod, garemocvaSi. Tavis damkvidreba maTTvis xSirad agresiasa da Zaladobaze gadis.
– am dros ra unda movuxerxoT maT agresiulobas?
– am dros meti siyvaruli, mofereba, gamgebianobaa aucilebeli. araviTar SemTxvevaSi ar aris gamosavali gariyva, garicxva skolidan, uxeSobaze uxeSobiT da agresiiT pasuxi. unda movZebnoT gza, romelic ufrosebisadmi ndobas da pativiscemas daubrunebs. aq igulisxmeba rogorc mSoblebi, ise maswavleblebi da skolis administracia. marTlac Sromatevadia am periodSi pedagogebisa da fsiqologebis saqme, magram es aucilebelia, radgan sxvagvarad, anu agresiiT kidev ufro gavamZafrebT maT damokidebulebas sazogadoebis ufrosi wevrebis mimarT.
– xSirad malaven Zaladobis faqtebs msxverplis axloblebis, ramdenad sworia es?
– araviTar SemTxvevaSi ar aris swori. CemTan xSirad modian pacientebi, romlebsac bavSvobaSi gadatanili Zaladobis gamo ufros asakSi daewyoT fsiqologiuri problemebi. Tuki droze ar Cautarda msxverpls saWiro fsiqologiuri daxmareba, SesaZloa es tkivili mTeli cxovrebis ganmavlobaSi gahyves da srulfasovan pirovnebad ver Camoyalibdes. pirveli, rac aucilebelia am dros, imis aRiareba, ra mdgomareobaSic varT da rasac ganvicdiT. mxolod amis Semdeg ixsneba adamiani da ukve SesaZlebelia misi mkurnaloba.
– ramdenad Seesabameba simarTles is, rom naxatebiTac gadmoscems bavSvi Tavis gancdebs?
– ki, meTodicaa aseTi. me vaxatineb xSirad, raTa gavigo, ra mdgomareobaSi imyofeba pacienti, rodesac uWirs sakuTar problemebze saubari. uamravi msgavsi meTodi arsebobs, maT Soris testebic. naxatebSi kargad Cans bavSvis, mozardis sulieri ganwyoba – raze fiqrobs, ras ganicdis, risi gadaviwyeba da dafarva surs yvelaze metad. bavSvebis naxatebze dakvirvebiT bevri ramis gagebaa SesaZlebeli. isini seqsualur Zaladobaze cxadia, xmamaRla ar laparakoben, radgan verc xvdebian ra aris es, magram imdenad mZime travmaa, rom is sadRac mainc vlindeba. bavSvi xatvas iwyebs, an moulodnelad, am sakiTxSi misi asakisTvis Seuferebel codnas gamoavlens.
– kidev ra meTodebiTaa SesaZlebeli Zaladobis SemTxvevebis aRmoCena?
– mniSvnelovania bavSvebis seqsualur TamaSebze dakvirvebac: Tu 5 wlis ori bavSvi erTmaneTs ikvlevs da col-qmrobanas Tu eqimobanas TamaSobs, aq sagangaSo araferia, magram rodesac igives akeTebs xuTi wlis da magaliTad, cxra wlis bavSvi, es ukve unda gamovikvlioT. Cndeba kiTxva – xom ara aqvs romelime maTgans Zaladobis gamocdileba warsulSi. am dros pirveli, rac mSobelma unda gaakeTos – bavSvs mousminos, daujeros, daamSvidos da ar daadanaSaulos. unda auxsnas, rom es ar aris kargi TamaSi, iseve rogorc cudia enis gamoyofa, cxvirSi TiTis Seyofa da a.S.
– gaxSirda Tu ara TqvenTan, rogorc fsiqologTan am kuTxiT pacientTa vizitebi?
– ki, sakmaod gaxSirda. cxadia, es tabudadebuli Temaa da ar minda an statistikiT da sxva detalebiT mivizido yuradReba. ubralod gavixseneb erT SemTxvevas, rodesac deda azrzec ar iyo, rom raRac ZaladobasTan hqonda saqme. bavSvi sxvadasxva profilis eqimebTan dahyavda uamravi somaturi CiviliT. arada, aRmoCnda, rom seqsualuri Zaladobis msxverpli yofila. aq Seiqmna meore problemac. me davdeqi dilemis winaSe, rogor unda gamemxila saidumlo, romelic gamando. arada, sxvagvarad ver SevqmnidiT mis irgvliv usafrTxo garemos. Tavad damWirda fsiqologTan konsultacia, raTa mimeRo am saidumlos gamxelis gadawyvetileba.
– qalebze Zaladobis SemTxvevebmac xom imata?
– ver dageTanxmebiT, rom – mxolod qalebze, aseve imata mamakacebzec, ara marto gogonebze, aramed – biWebzec. axla meti wvdoma aqvT rogorc erotikul filmebze, ise internetSi ganTavsebul informacize. am dros aucilebelia, mTeli sazogadoeba Seikras da ibrZolos msgavsi gadaxrebis winaaRmdeg. bavSvebs ar unda hqondeT wvdoma am xasiaTis arc filmebze, arc informaciaze da arc fotoebze. rac mTavaria, ganaTlebis sistema unda dadges am mimarTulebiT ufro maRla. daixvewos igive xasiaTis informacia da sworad miawodon bavSvebs specialistebma, raTa maT ar SeeqmnaT sakuTari gamrudebuli samyaro.
– adre ar gvyavda amdeni fsiqoTerapevti, magram gacilebiT iSviaTad gvxvdeboda msgavsi faqtebi. . .
– diax, Tumca maSin Caketili iyo sivrce, ufro adre ki xalxs uflis ufro swamda, moZRvars endobodnen, romelic gacilebiT ukeT uZRveboda mrevlis moralur mxareebs. marTlac ar aris aucilebeli fsiqoTerapevtTan sirbili, sakmarisia rwmena, eklesiaSi siaruli, aRsareba da ziareba. Tuki bavSvebs amas mivaCvevT, naklebi problemis winaSe aRmoCndebian. agreTve aucilebelia, ojaxis wevrebi iyvnen Sekruli erTmaneTis siyvaruliT da pativiscemiT, erTmaneTis ndobiT aRsavseni cxovrobdnen. maSin daculi iqnebian rogorc mSoblebi, ise bavSvebi yovelgvari mankierebisgan.
– magram rodesac moZaladed gvevlineba mama an biZa?
– Tu moZalade mamaa, saidumlo ufro didxans imaleba. es rom dedam gaigos? da SiSi kidev ufro Zlierdeba. isicaa, moZalade bavSvs xSirad eubneba – Sen ukve didi xar, Cven gvaqvs iseTi urTierToba, rogoric aqvT didebs, es ki bavSvisTvis macdunebeli da momxibvleli ramaa. moZalade bavSvs eubneba – me Sen miyvarxar. SenTan imas vakeTeb, rasac akeTeben adamianTan, romelic uyvarT. me Sen gamogarCie. sxvasTan aseTi urTierToba ar maqvs. Sen upiratesoba gaqvs. moZalade bavSvs CamoarTmevs pirobas – es iyos Cveni saidumlo. esec bavSvisTvis romantikuli da idumalebis xiblis mqonea da am TamaSSi advilad erTveba.
– Sinagan saqmeTa saministro seqsualuri Zaladobis Camdeni pirebisaTvis sasjels amkacrebs?
– diax, rogorc vici, saministrom SeimuSava sakanonmdeblo cvlilebebis paketi, romelic aseTi pirebisTvis mTeli rigi uflebebis (maT Soris saswavlo-saganmanaTleblo dawesebulebebSi muSaobis) CamorTmevas iTvaliswinebs. aseve gegmaSia Seiqmnas seqsualuri ZaladobisTvis msjavrdebul pirTa baza, romelic bevrad gaaadvilebs am kuTxiT prevenciuli RonisZiebebis gatarebas. rogorc vici, aseve apireben mowmisa da dazaralebulis koordinatoris institutis Seqmnas. koordinatorebi prioritetulad imuSaveben Zaladobis msxverpl arasrulwlovanebTan da maT mSoblebTan, gauweven maT pirvelad fsiqologiur daxmarebas, rac marTlac aucilebelia maTTvis pirvel etapze.
