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bednieri qorwineba yvela qalis natvraa. mis misaRwevad mxolod qorwili ar kmara, sakmaod didi mondomeba da Sromaa saWiro, rom ori adamianis Tanacxovreba iRblianad CaiTvalos
daqorwinebis gadawyvetileba wyvilebs aZlierebs, magram… asustebs kidec. erTad gatarebuli dro urTierTobas amyarebs, magram Tanacxovreba da yoveldRiurobis gaziareba SesaZloa, gamowveva aRmoCndes. ojaxi niSnavs erTmaneTis yvela dadebiTi da uaryofiTi Tvisebis danaxvas, kargisa da cudis saaSkaraoze gamotanas da im realobis gamomzeurebas, rac Seyvarebulobisas uxilavi iyo. swored amitom wyvilisTvis qorwineba erTgvari gamowvevaa. swored am gamowvevebsa da urTierTobebis siRrmeebze vesaubreT fsiqologs, reabilitaciisa da ganviTarebis centris qceviT Terapevt sofiko Cinbas.
– aris Sexeduleba, rom arsebobs colqmruli urTierTobis xuTi oqros wesi, romlebic ojaxs bednierad aqcevs. ra wesebia es da ramdenad marTebulia aseTi formulireba?
– zogadad, colqmrul urTierTobaSi Teoriul doneze Zalian bevri wesi arsebobs, romlebsac fsiqologebi gamoyofen. gansakuTrebuli yuradReba eqceva yvelaze mniSvnelovans: urTierTpativiscemas, yuradRebas, grZnobebis, emociebis gamomJRavnebas, daTmobaze wasvlas, ndobas, patiebas. ra Tqma unda, arsebobs zogadi wesebi, romlebsac ojaxi an iTvaliswinebs, an ara, radgan yvelas Tavisi wesi aqvs. iseT ojaxs, sadac adamianebs ar uyvarT erTmaneTi, Ralati da `movaleobis moxdis mizniT~ cxovrebaa prioritetuli, ra Tqma unda, pozitiuri wesebi ver eqneba. cxovrebas Tavad vqmniT sainteresod da aucilebelia misi SenarCuneba zemoT aRniSnuli kriteriumebidan gamomdinare. gvinda Tu ara, garkveuli wesebis dacvamde mivdivarT, magram es unda iyos sasiamovno.
– ar arsebobs uproblemo ojaxi, magram mainc. . . naadrevi ganqorwinebis umTavresi mizezi ra aris?
– samwuxarod, Zalian bevri ojaxi ingreva da mizezic Zalian bevri SeiZleba iyos, pirvel rigSi – usiyvaruloba, gulgriloba, materialuri krizisi, urwmunoeba. Tu adamiani giyvars, yvelanairi krizisi daZlevadia `erT sul da erT xorc~. swored gansacdelis Jams rwmundeba adamiani sakuTar grZnobebSi, am dros gamoCndeba, ramdenad uyvars, ramdenad gaZlierdeba da gaaZlierebs meore naxevars. . . mokled, yvelaferi daZlevadia, Tuki siyvarulia, romelic mamotivirebeli Zala unda iyos. xSirad ojaxis Seqmnisas yuradRebas mxolod erTmaneTis vizualur mxares aqceven. aseTi siyvarulic Zalian xSirad swrafad dasrulebula.
– saqarTveloSi Seyvarebulebi xSirad naadrevad qorwindebian. . . mSoblebis imediT, radgan Tavad myari Semosavali ar aqvT. ramdenad xdeba es konfliqtis mizezi?
– ra Tqma unda, naadrevi qorwineba warmoSobs bzars urTierTobebSi, rac yvela aspeqtSi gamoixateba. samwuxarod, ojaxebi, romlebic mxolod mSoblebis uzrunvelyofiT iqmneba da daojaxebul wyvils ar aqvs Sesabamisi Semosavali, xSirad ganwirulia. Tanadamokidebuleba iwvevs TviTSefasebis daqveiTebas, rac Tavis mxriv sxvagvar problemebs warmoSobs, axalgazrdebi stresisa da depresiisken midrekilni xdebian, gansakuTrebiT isini, Tavs imedgacruebulad rom grZnoben. Tu pirvel etapze prioritetuli siyvaruli iyo, namdvili grZnobis ararsebobis SemTxvevaSi saerTo suraTi icvleba.
– statistikurad Tu aris aRricxuli, saqarTveloSi ganqorwinebis umTavresi mizezi ra aris da am mxriv iniciatorebi mamakacebi ufro arian Tu qalbatonebi?
– SarSandel statistikas Tu gadavavlebT Tvals, vnaxavT, rom pirveli qorwinebidan ganqorwinebulTa ricxvi qalebisa da mamakacebis SemTxvevaSi 10000-10000-zea, xolo meoradi qorwinebis SemTxvevaSi gacilebiT dabali – 1500-1500-ze. ganqorwinebis iniciatorebi umetesad qalebi arian qmris Ralatis Tu maTze Zaladobis gamo. aseve mizezad asaxeleben SeuTavseblobas, meuRlis upasuxismgeblobas.
– ucxoeTSi wyvilebi problemebis warmoSobisas fsiqologebTan dadian, CvenTan ra mdgomareobaa?
– sazRvargareT Zalian bevri ojaxi dadis fsiqoTerapevtTan. es, ra Tqma unda, survilzea damokidebuli, romelic ormxrivi unda iyos. sazRvargareT bevri ojaxi ingreva, Tumca, krizisebis miuxedavad, cdiloben urTierTobebis SenarCunebas, Tu ar CavTvliT gamonaklis SemTxvevebs. samwuxarod, saqarTveloSi am servisiT adamianebi naklebad sargebloben, risi mizezi Tanxis uqonlobacaa. xSirad ar sjeraT, rom ama Tu im problemis mogvarebaSi fsiqologma SeiZleba didi roli Seasrulos. mxolod fsiqologis seansebi yvela ojaxs ver SeinarCunebs. mTavaria Zaladobis, pativiscemis SenarCunebis da erTmaneTis gadawyvetilebis mimRebloba da gancda iyos maRali.
– Tu gqoniaT praqtikaSi wyvilis mxridan problemebze Riad saubris SemTxveva?
– wyvilis – ara, Tumca ojaxidan erT-erTs moumarTavs SekiTxviT, rogor moegvarebina problema, romelic ojaxis ngrevam gamoiwvia, es iyo ojaxSi arsebul mdgomareobasTan gamklaveba, bavSvebis damokidebuleba dedisadmi. . . yofila SemTxvevebi, roca bavSvebi ganicdian mSoblebis ganSorebas, cdiloben maT Serigebas, surT cxovreba orive mSobelTan. . . bavSvis mdgomareobaze Zalian moqmedebs es faqtori.
– rogorc fsiqologebi amboben, ganqorwinebis erT-erTi mizezi wyvilis sulieri da seqsualuri SeuTavseblobaa. . .
– seqsi siyvaruls ar gulisxmobs, Tumca seqsis gareSe siyvarulic ar arsebobs. gamoricxulia, adamians sayvarel adamianTan urTierTobis periodSi ar gauCndes seqsualuri fantaziebi da aucilebelia, yuradReba mieqces msgavs sakiTxebs, radgan SesaZloa, amas seriozuli problemebi mohyves wyvilis urTierTobaSi. xSiria SemTxveva, roca adamianebi erTmaneTs seqsualuri SeuTavseblobis gamo Sordebian.
– ekonomikurad Zlieri wyvilebic xSirad daSorebulan, cxadia, mizezi sxvadasxvaa, magram, mainc – ZiriTadi romelia?
– amis mizezi, pirvel rigSi, arasakmarisi siyvarulia, amitomac fuli ar unda iyos mTavari kriteriumi ojaxis Seqmnisas, radgan es ufro statusis miniWebis survilia, vidre siyvaruli, ndobis Camoyalibeba. xSirad msgavsi ojaxebis ngrevas Ralati iwvevs. sadac siyvaruli araa, iq Ralati da upativcemuloba wina planzea wamoweuli, amitomac partniorebi erTmaneTs ar ufrTxildebian da pasuxismgeblobas ar grZnoben. xSiria SemTxveva, roca mesame piri ereva urTierTobaSi, magram sabolood aqac arasakmarisi siyvarulia urTierTobis ngrevis mizezi. vinc ar unda Caerios am urTierTobaSi, siyvaruli siyvarulia da veravin unda SeZlos misi moreva.
– rogorc fsiqologi, ras urCevT wyvilebs, rogor moagvaron problemebi da `mesame~ piris (deda, mama, megobari) CarTva colqmrul urTierTobebSi ramdenad gamarTlebulia?
– ojaxSi arsebuli problemebis dros umTavresia, wyvilma Tavad moagvaros problemebi, gaacnobieros problemis arsi. `me var marTali~ – am principiT ar unda ixelmZRvanelon, ojaxis SenarCunebis aucileblobamde ar unda mivides saqme, radgan Tu xSirad daingra da aRdga ojaxi, iq bzari mainc rCeba. Tu adamiani gaiTavisebs Tavis wil uaryofiT qcevas, mxolod maSin iqneba miRweuli Sedegi, radgan roca mesame, meoTxe piri erTveba am procesSi da viRacas raRacis axsna uwevs, rodesac sxvas (vgulisxmob ojaxis wevrs, naTesavs…) xdi Seni problemis Tanamonawiled, arcTu ise sasiamovno procesia. Tu ukiduresi SemTxvevaa da sxva adamianis daxmarebaa saWiro, ra Tqma unda, aucilebelia saaxloblo wris CarTva, Tumca, Cemi azriT, problema mainc wyvilma unda moagvaros, raTa momavalSi naTesavebi maT cxovrebaSi xSirad ar Caerion.
– mogexsenebaT, saqarTveloSi wyvili ZiriTadad mSoblebTan cxovrobs, ucxoeTisgan gansxvavebiT. daojaxebulebis calke cxovreba ramdenad ganapirobebs wyvilis myar urTierTobas, Tu yvelaferi mainc individebzea damokidebuli?
– Zalian kargia, roca ojaxuri wyvili calke cxovrobs – isini ufro damoukideblebi arian, meti motivacia aqvT, pasuxismgebloba aiRon ojaxze. am SemTxvevaSi naklebi problema iCens Tavs ojaxSi, romlebic SesaZloa, ufro martivad mogvardes. did ojaxSi roca cxovrob, adamianebs uwevT sxvebis azris gaTvaliswineba, zogs raRac moswons, zogs – ara. . . msgavsi problemebi uTanxmoebas warmoSobs. zogjer partniorebi brazdebian, radgan ver amboben, rasac fiqroben. es jaWvi droTa ganmavlobaSi izrdeba, rTuldeba da bolos wydeba, magram zemoaRniSnuli ar niSnavs, rom marto cxovrebis SemTxvevaSi uTanxmoebebi ar xdeba. ojaxi am SemTxvevaSic SeiZleba daingres. xSiria SemTxveva, roca wyvili marto cxovrobs, magram maTi mSoblebi zedmetad arian CarTuli ojaxis Sida saqmeebSi. es isev uTanxmoebas iwvevs urTierTobebSi, erTmaneTs aqezeben, egoisturad arian ganwyobilni, rac qmnis wreds, sadac izrdeba problemebi. amitomacaa mniSvnelovani, giyvardeT da gaufrTxildeT erTmaneTs.
