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bavSvobidan zrdasrulobaSi gardamavali asakis Taviseburebebi is Temaa, romelic mudmivad saWiroebs ganxilvas, sazogadoebisTvis swori informaciis miwodebas, gansakuTrebiT ki erTgvar rekomendaciebs mSoblebisTvis, maswavleblebisTvis. rogor mivudgeT e. w. gardatexis periodSi myof mozards, romlis tvinSic da sxeulSic araerTgvarovani cvlilebebi mimdinareobs, ra asakidan ewyebaT maT ufrosebis mier dakanonebulad Serqmeuli `rTuli periodi~, romelic, albaT, ufro bavSvis ganviTarebis erT-erTi etapia, da ra garemoebebi iwvevs maTSi meamboxeobas – amaze gvesaubreba klinikuri fsiqologi manana devaZe.
– rogor da ra midgomebiT unda movaxerxoT gardatexis asakTan dakavSirebuli problemebis SedarebiT civilurad mogvareba?
– es Tema, dResdReobiT, erT-erTi aqtualuri da sakmaod problemuria. gardatexis periodSi mozardis fizikur cvlilebebTan erTad, mimdinareobs hormonaluri cvlilebebic, es is periodia, rodesac moswavles uwevs brZola socialuri aRiarebisTvis, uyalibdeba me-koncefcia, ecvleba Sexedulebebi, gemovneba, damokidebulebebi, bavSvobidan gadadis zrdasrulobaSi. es yvelaferi ganapirobebs ojaxsa Tu skolaSi mozardis qcevis cvlilebas. imisaTvis, rom gardatexis asakTan dakavSirebuli sirTuleebis prevencia SevZloT, aucilebelia cnobierebis amaRlebaze zrunva ara marto skolaSi, aramed saxlSic. swored am dros sWirdeba mozards gverdiT dgoma, gzis Cveneba, daxmareba, aucilebelia, rom mSoblebs emociuri kavSiri hqondeT SvilebTan, xSirad isaubron maTTan, gauziaron TavianTi gamocdileba da emociebi. mozards unda hqondes sakuTari Tavis gamoxatvis SesaZlebloba, ar unda izRudebodes garSemomyofebisgan. mSobelma da maswavlebelma unda izrunon Svilisa Tu moswavlis adekvaturi TviTSefasebisa da zogadad, pozitiuri me-koncefciis Camoyalibebaze. mniSvnelovania, rom mozardi iyos iseT garemoSi, sadac Tavis potencials ipovis da ganaviTarebs. yovelive zemoTqmuli metwilad uzrunvelyofs gardatexis asakis Taviseburebebis pozitiur ganviTarebas, aqcenti gakeTdeba dadebiT mxareze, rac ganapirobebs met karg Sedegs.
– xSirad arsebul problemas mSoblebi arasworad udgebian, iwyeba erTgvari gaucxoeba, ar xerxdeba srulyofili dialogi, rac xSir SemTxvevaSi iwvevs agresias. ra rekomendacias miscemT mSoblebs?
– TaobaTa Soris dapirispireba maradiuli problemaa, mozardi interesis simZafriT, zrdasruli ki Secdomis daSvebis SiSiT, garkveul TemebTan dakavSirebiT, eWidebian erTmaneTs. mudam aris gansxvavebuli Sexedulebebi da ori SesaZlo `swori~ arCevani, zrdasrulma ganicada raRac da ar unda mozardmac igive ganicados, mozards ki unda igemos Tavisi arCevani, rac TiTqos akrZaluli xiliviTaa misTvis… sxvadasxva epoqis SvilebTan midgomebic da Sexedulebebic gansxvavebulia, rac, bunebrivia, Tumca faqtia, adamianebma asakis, mrwamsisa Tu damokidebulebebis miuxedavad, unda viswavloT sxvisi gansxvavebuli azris, Sexedulebebis, damokidebulebebis pativiscema. mniSvnelovania, rom racionalurad mivudgeT ama Tu im sakiTxsa Tu qmedebas, davmSviddeT da Semdgom visaubroT zedmeti emociebis da agresiis gareSe. aris SemTxvevebi, rodesac mozardi uSvebs Secdomas, romelic zrdasrulebisTvis SesaZloa zedmetad alogikuri iyos. amis gamoc gamoxataven ukmayofilebas, agresias (ganikiTxaven da eCxubebian mozards), garkveulwilad iseT reaqcias avlenen, rac ganapirobebs mozardis Tavmoyvareobis Selaxvas, brazs, Sesabamisad, es midgoma ufro metad arTulebs mozardTan komunikacias, iwvevs gaucxoebas da qmnis bariers TaobaTa Soris. am dros mozards sWirdeba adamiani, vinc ki ar ganikiTxavs, aramed megobrulad miudgeba, etyvis, ra iyo araswori da swor alternativasac uCvenebs, mozards agrZnobinebs, rom nebismier SemTxvevaSi upirobod uyvars da mis gverdiT aris. mniSvnelovania, rom mSoblebma Svilebi damoukidebel pirovnebebad miiRon, gaiazron, rom Svilis pasuxismgebloba maTi pasuxismgebloba araa, rom Tu Svili `arasworad~ moiqceva, es maTi `sircxvili~ ar aris, rom Svilebsac aqvT cdis da Secdomis daSvebis ufleba da pasuxismgeblobis aRebis valdebuleba. mozardTan, rogorc TanasworTan, ise unda visaubroT, am dros isini metad ixsnebian da gamoxataven mzaobas informaciis gacvlisTvis. yvelas gvaqvs sasurveli qcevis modeli. mSoblebi, ZiriTadad, am modelidan gamomdinare esaubrebian Svilebs, mniSvnelovania, sasurveli qcevis modeli da standartebi gverdiT gadavdoT, rTul situaciebSi mozardTan sakuTari gamocdilebiT visaubroT, moviyvanoT magaliTebi imis dasturad, rasac vambobT. ar Segvrcxves Secdomis aRiareba, pirveli nabijis gadadgma da Tundac sxva nebismieri qmedeba, romelic gaaRrmavebs SvilTan komunikacias.
– individualizmis, sakuTari identobis Ziebis procesSi mozardebi xSirad agresiulebi xdebian, ver axdenen realur mocemulobaze swor reagirebas – TiTqos ikargebian drosa da sivrceSi. ra garemoebebi axdens am dros maTze zegavlenas?
– mozardze gavlenas araerTi garemoeba axdens, es sakmaod rTuli da xangrZlivi procesia, romelSic mravali faqtori iyris Tavs. mniSvnelovania Rrma bavSvobidan dawyebuli aRzrdis stili, urTierTobebi da garemo pirobebi, agreTve, mediis gavlena – negatiuri informaciebi, romlebsac mozardebi iReben sxvadasxva televiziisa Tu socialuri qselis saSualebiT amZafrebs maT emociebs. adamiani socialuri arsebaa, socialuri urTierTobebisas ki xSirad vxvdebiT araswori qcevisa Tu komunikaciis models, romelsac bavSvebi martivad swavloben, Semdgom Tavadac ase iqcevian. amas emateba sakuTari identobis Ziebis procesSi aRmoCenili `nakli~, konkurentuli garemo, socialuri aRiarebisa da Tavis damkvidrebis mZafri survili, romelic ganxorcielebis sirTulidan gamomdinare, iwvevs mozardis SfoTvasa da gaRizianebas. igi grZnobs cvlilebebs, gazrdas da unda, sxvebmac didad CaTvalon, Tumca mSoblebisTvis Svili kvlav patarad rCeba, rac iwvevs maT protests. mozardebi mudmivad raRacas amtkiceben, cdiloben TavianTi azrisa da poziciis dacvas, metad orientirebulni arian sxvis azrze. am dros maTTvis avtoriteti ara mSoblebi, aramed popularuli Tanatolebi arian, metad ewinaaRmdegebian mSoblebs, romlebic amas ver eguebian, rac amZafrebs mdgomareobas. faqtobrivad, mozards socialuri aRiarebisTvis brZola uwevs ara marto skolasa Tu `ezoSi~, aramed sakuTar saxlSic ki. sadavoa mosazreba, iwvevs Tu ara agresias siZulvilisa da Zaladobis Semcveli filmebi, Tumca faqtia, rom igi, garkveulwilad, proeqciis saSualebas aZlevs mozards da, amasTanave, zrdis apaTiisa da agresiis gamovlenis riskebs, iseve, rogorc kompiuteruli TamaSebi. garda imisa, rom mozardi ganicdis hormonalur cvlilebebs, icvleba fizikurad, uCndeba kompleqsebi. zemoTqmulTa erToblioba gavlenas axdens TviTSefasebaze, rac mozards metad mowyvlads xdis brazisa da agresiis mimarT.
– mozardebis gajetebze damokidebuleba, kompiuteruli TamaSebi kidev erTi Tavsatexia mSoblebisaTvis. am dros isini naklebad arian komunikaciaSi realur samyarosTan. rogor unda movaxerxoT amis kontroli, dozireba?
– gajetebze damokidebuleba namdvilad didi Tavsatexia. 21-e saukune teqnologiebis eraa, rac arTulebs gajetebidan mozardebis yuradRebis sxva rameze gadarTvas, Tumca gamosavali yovelTvis arsebobs. imisaTvis, rom gajetebze damokidebuleba Semcirdes, drois menejmentia saWiro. mozards unda hqondes SemuSavebuli dRis ganrigi, kvebis reJimi, aucilebelia, saxlSi moqmedebdes wesebi, iyos erToblivi aqtivobebi. magaliTad, xSiria SemTxveva, rodesac mozards kvebis reJimi areuli aqvs, TamaSobs mTeli dRe, sakvebsac ki TamaSisas miirTmevs, rasac sakmaod cud Sedegamde mivyavarT. aucilebelia, rom kvebisas adamiani raimeTi ar iyos dakavebuli, miT ufro – kompiuteruli TamaSiT. aucilebelia ganisazRvros kompiuteruli TamaSisTvis drois limiti, romelic mkacrad gakontroldeba. mniSvnelovania, xeli SevuwyoT mozardis jansaRi cxovrebis wesiT dainteresebas, dakavdes sportiT, ojaxSi dro daeTmos saerTo aqtivobebs, Sekrebebs da urTierTobebs, rac xels Seuwyobs kompiuterul TamaSebze damokidebulebis Semcirebas da normirebas.
– erT-erT skolaSi fsiqologad muSaobT. Tqveni azriT, ramdenad arian mozardebi mzad, isaubron problemebze da Tu axerxebT maT srulyofilad daxmarebas?
– sakmaod didi droa, rac skolaSi vmuSaob, Sexeba maqvs sxvadasxva asakis moswavleebTan, romlebic sxvadasxvagvarad reagireben gamowvevebsa Tu sirTuleebze. asakis mixedviTaa iniciativis gamoCena fsiqologTan gasaubrebisTvis. ZiriTadad, individualuri Sexvedrebi maqvs maswavleblisa da mSoblis momarTvis safuZvelze. fsiqologiur sakiTxebze vatareb Sexvedrebs, miwevs interaqciis warmarTva klasSi bavSvebTan, Semdgom ki, raime problemis arsebobisas, calke individualur Sexvedras vTavazob ama Tu im moswavles. jgufuri Sexvedrisas moswavleebi sakmaod aqtiurad erTvebian fsiqoganaTlebis mxriv aqtivobebsa da interaqciaSi. rac Seexeba individualur Sexvedrebs, aris SemTxveva, rodesac mozardi Tavisi iniciativiT modis konsultaciaze, Tumca es damokidebulia emociur mdgomareobasa da problemis simZafreze. ikveTeba ara marto asakobrivi kategoriis, aramed, sqesTa gansxvavebulobis mxriv mzaoba, kerZod, mdedrobiTi sqesis moswavleebi metad gamoxataven Sexvedris survils, vidre mamrobiTi. SeiZleba iTqvas, fsiqologTan saubari mozardTa mxolod mcire nawils surs, umravlesoba ar aris mzad fsiqologTan emociebze saubris dasawyebad, miuxedavad imisa, rom mozardi SesaZloa, sakmaod aqtiuri da iniciativiani iyos. xSirad mqonia SemTxveva, rodesac mozards individualuri Sexvedrisas saubari uWirs, aseT dros wera SemiTavazebia alternativad da moswavlisTvis es meTodi ufro martivia emociebsa Tu problemebze sasaubrod. aris SemTxveva, rodesac metaforul baraTebs viyeneb fsiqokonsultirebisas da am teqnikiT moswavles gamartivebia saubari. yovel maTgans sxvadasxva midgoma sWirdeba, asakisa da xasiaTis tipis Sesabamisad. araerT moswavles hqonia Sedegi, Tumca faqtia, rom mozardis problemis aRmosafxvrelad mxolod skolaSi muSaoba ar kmara. aris SemTxvevebi, rodesac saqme gvaqvs bavSvobisdroindel travmebTan da mozards sWirdeba ara mxolod fsiqokonsultireba da fsiqologTan sesiebi, aramed fsiqoTerapia. am dros mSobelzea damokidebuli, miiyvans Tu ara mozards fsiqoTerapevtTan. mniSvnelovania, rom ojaxma gaiTvaliswinos fsiqologis rekomendaciebi, skola da ojaxi erToblivad unda moqmedebdes. mSobelTa nawili mzad aris CvenTan TanamSromlobisTvis, Tumca nawilisTvis fsiqologiuri daxmarebis saWiroeba `zedmetia~ da nebismieri problemuri qcevis aRmofxvris gzad mozardTan direqtiuli midgoma da `dasja~ miaCniaT. am SemTxvevaSi problema, samwuxarod, kvlavac problemad rCeba.
