მშობლის როლი – ბავშვის პიროვნებად ჩამოყალიბებაში
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mSobloba bednierebaa, Tumca mas didi pasuxismgebloba axlavs. bavSvis aRzrda rTuli procesia, romelic moiTxovs mSoblebis mxridan upirobo siyvaruls, simSvides, gawonasworebulobas, mzrunvelobasa da fsiqologiis sabaziso codnas, raTa moxdes bavSvis pirovnebad Camoyalibeba da ganviTareba.
dRes am Temaze gvesaubreba nino bajeliZe – bavSvTa fsiqologi, romelic muSaobs bavSvTa ganviTarebis centrSi, ZiriTadad sxvadasxva diagnozis mqone beneficiarebTan. `muSaobis procesSi gavacnobiere, rom swrafi Sedegis misaRwevad aranakleb saWiroa mSobelTa gaZliereba da maTTvis im gzebis Cveneba, romliTac swori komunikacia eqnebaT SvilebTan. swored amitom gadavwyvite, Sevicvalo mimarTuleba da gavxde mSobelTa fsiqologi. es aris axali servisi, romelsac vTavazob mSoblebs da maT SeuZliaT am servisiT sargebloba~, – ase daiwyo man CvenTan saubari.
– rodis iwyeba mSoblisa da Svilis urTierToba?
– mSoblis da Svilis urTierToba jer kidev im wamidan iwyeba, rodesac mSobeli igebs, rom male mas patara eyoleba. kvlevebis Tanaxmad, xSirad am dros gancdili emociebi gansazRvravs SemdgomSi bavSvis xasiaTs. amis Semdgom, umetesad, mSoblebs aqvT sruli 9 Tve bavSvis gasacnobad, iqamde, sanam is moevlineba qveyanas. swored mucladyofnis periodidan iwyeba is tkbil-mware mogzauroba, romelsac mSoblebi SvilTan erTad gadian. mTeli 9 Tve deda da Svili cxovroben erT organizmad.
– dedis emociur fons ra gavlenis moxdena SeuZlia nayofis ganviTarebaze?
– dedis emociuri foni orsulobisas did gavlenas axdens Canasaxis ganviTarebaze, agreTve, gansazRvravs dedis mSobiarobis Semdgom ganwyobasac. am periodSi dedasTan erTad gansakuTrebuli roli eniWeba mamasac da imas, Tu rogor emociur ganwyobas Seuqmnis is bavSvis dedas. Tu mama moZaladea, es TavisTavad daazianebs embrionis da dedis rogorc fizikur, aseve, emociur mdgomareobas, romelic gagrZeldeba mSobiarobis Semdeg periodSic da didi Sansia imisa, rom bavSvi agresiul adamianad Camoayalibos. magram, Tu mama mxardamWeria da karg emociur fons uqmnis dedas, es SeiZleba gaxdes yvelaze kargi saSualeba orsulobis Semdgomi depresiis dasamarcxeblad. garda emociuri fonisa, arsebobs uamravi teratogeni, romelic xels uSlis nayofis ganviTarebas. kvlevebma aCvena, rom mxolod SfoTvas orsul qalbatonebSi SeuZlia gamoiwvios nayofis sxeulis masis Semcireba, sxeulis mcire masa ki SeiZleba ukavSirdebodes yuradRebis deficitis da hiperaqtiurobis sindromis Camoyalibebas bavSvebSi. rogorc xedavT, mSobeli sakmaod rTul gzas gadis bavSvis gaCenamde, magram es mxolod dausrulebeli kibis pirveli safexuria.
– ramdenad gadamwyveti mniSvneloba eniWeba Cvilobis periods bavSvis cxovrebaSi?
– Cviloba moicavs dabadebidan 2 wlamde periods, rodesac gansakuTrebuli sifrTxile da yuradReba marTebs mSobels, vinaidan am periodis ganviTarebas gadamwyveti mniSvneloba eniWeba da mas SeuZlia seriozuli zegavlena iqonios bavSvis pirovnebad Camoyalibebis procesSi.
– ra unda icodes axalbeda mSobelma kognitur ganviTarebaze?
– mesame TvisTvis Cvils unda SeeZlos 7-8 wamis ganmavlobaSi SeaCeros mxedveloba saganze, Tvals ayolebdes moZrav obieqts. 4 Tvis bavSvi ara mxolod xedavs, aramed uyurebs, is aqtiurad reagirebs mxedvelobis velSi moxvedril obieqtze, iwyebs moZraobas da gamoscems bgerebs. bavSvs SeuZlia sagnis formis aRqma, xedavs konturebs da sxva elementebs. erT-erT eqsperimentSi bavSvs aCvenebdnen TeTr fonze gamosaxul sqel, Sav xazs. bavSvis mzera mimarTuli iyo Savi xazisa da TeTri fonis sazRvarze. meore eqsperimentSi Cvils erTdroulad aCvenebdnen 2 furcels: TeTrs da Savi vertikaluri xazebiT. aRmoCnda, rom Cvili met xans uyurebda xazebian furcels. aseve, 2-3 Tvis bavSvi interess avlens im obieqtebis mimarT, romelic nawilobriv gansxvavdeba misTvis cnobili obieqtebisagan.
– romeli Tvidan reagirebs ferebze?
– 3-4 Tvis bavSvi ukve reagirebs ferze. Tu mas sakvebs mivawodebT wiTeli feris boTliT, is Seucdomlad amoicnobs mas sxva feris boTlebs Soris. aqtiuri damokidebuleba feris mimarT Cndeba 6 Tvis asakisTvis. dReisTvis iTvleba, rom Cvils aqvs samyaros mTliani xati da ara feradi laqebis, xazebis da elementebis mozaikuri nakrebi. bavSvi aRiqvams ara obieqtis calkeul maxasiaTeblebs, aramed mTlianad obieqts. is qmnis obieqtis zogad xatebs.
– Cvilebi upiratesobas aniWeben axal sagnebs, es risi maniSnebeli SeiZleba iyos?
– 4 Tvis bavSvi upiratesobas aniWebs axali sagnebis yurebas, es ki miuTiTebs imaze, rom maT axsovT ukve nanaxi sagnebi. 1 wlis bavSvi cnobs nacnob adamianebs, miuxedavad imisa, rom ramdenime kvira ar unaxavs da ixsenebs (xangrZlivi mexsiereba) 1 kviris winandel ambebs. 2 wlis asakSi axsovT 3 Tvis winandeli ambebi.
– ramdenad mniSvnelovania mSoblis roli metyvelebis CamoyalibebaSi?
– rodesac bavSvi warmoTqvams bgerebs, mSoblebi ganamtkiceben maT RimiliT, CaxutebiTa da Tbili saubriT. zogi bihevioristis azriT, bavSvebi imitaciiT cdiloben warmoTqvan rTuli sityvebi da dasrulebuli winadadebebi. imitacia SeiZleba SeuTavsdes ganmtkicebas. magaliTad, roca mSobeli bavSvs sTxovs, Tqvi: `namcxvari minda~, mSobeli uRimis da efereba mas, roca bavSvi ambobs: `namcxvari minda~. e.i. bihevioristebis azriT, bavSvi metyvelebas iTvisebs rogorc mibaZviT, aseve ganmtkicebiT. metyvelebis Camoyalibebis procesSi erT-erTi umniSvnelovanesi unari, romelic bavSvma SeiZleba ganaviTaros, aris `TanamSromlobis unari~. es gulisxmobs garkveuli funqciebis gadanawilebas mSobelsa da Svils Soris. Tu es unari ar aqvs bavSvs ganviTarebuli, am SemTxvevaSi vawydebiT iseT problemas, rogoricaa Wirveuloba.
– anu, Wirveuloba SeiZleba iyos metyvelebis dagvianebis mizezi?
– ki, Wirveuloba xSir SemTxvevaSi erT-erTi faqtoria, ris gamoc SeiZleba bavSvma metyveleba daagvianos. sxva sityvebiT rom vTqvaT, aseT SemTxvevaSi, mSobels `jinis~ roli aqvs morgebuli da mas yvela survils usrulebs. bavSvi ki veRar xedavs imis saWiroebas, rom raime moiTxovos sityvierad. mSoblis da Svilis amgvar damokidebulebas SesaZloa, orgvari efeqti hqondes: pirveli, Tanatolebis mxridan gaxdes bavSvis gariyva im mizeziT, rom masTan komunikacias ver amyareben, da meore, igive TanatolebTan komunikaciis survilma SesaZloa, bavSvSi swori metyveleba ganaviTaros, radgan Tavisi Tanatoli ver wava im daTmobebze, romelzec midis mSobeli, maSin roca bavSvi Wirveulobs. sxva sityvebiT rom vTqvaT, saWiroebas moaqvs metyveleba.
– rogoria bavSvTa azrovnebis ganviTareba da mSoblis roli am procesSi?
– erT-erTi mTavari aspeqti pirovnebad Camoyalibebis procesSi aris azrovneba, romlis ganviTarebaSi mSoblis roli Zalian didia. filosofos jon lokis azriT, `bavSvi aris sufTa dafa~, romelzec mSobels is SeuZlia daweros, rac unda. anu bavSvi mTlianad mSoblis azrovnebis Sedegia. garkveulwilad, es asec aris, radgan is, Tu rogor aRiqvams bavSvi samyaros, damokidebulia imaze, Tu rogor aRiqvams amave samyaros mSobeli. magaliTad, mSobels travmirebuli bavSvoba hqonda da iyo moZalade mSoblis msxverpli, Zalian didi Sansia, rom man cxovrebiseuli Tanamgzavri SearCios mSoblis prototipis mixedviT, anu, moxdes travmebis gadatana mSoblidan Svilze, radgan mSobeli aris SvilisTvis avtoriteti da qvecnobierad Svili axdens im qcevebis normalizebas, rasac mSobeli akeTebda. amdenad, sasurvelia, fexmZimobis periodidanve mSoblebma isargeblon fsiqologis momsaxurebiT, raTa Tavidan aicilon travmebi.
– ramdenad mniSvnelovania aRzrdis stili pirovnebis formirebis procesSi?
– aRzrdis stilis kvleva jer kidev me-20 saukunis 30-iani wlebidan daiwyo. kurt levini erTmaneTisgan ganasxvavebs aRzrdis sam stils: avtoritaruls, demokratiulsa da liberalurs. urTierTobis avtoritaruli stili gamoirCeva maRali kontroliT, mcire responsiulobiTa da mkacri wesebiT, romlebic Seuvalia. igi bavSvisgan moiTxovs usityvo morCilebas. bavSvs aq pasiuri pozicia ukavia. aRmzrdeli cdilobs aRsazrdeliT manipulirebas, ar aswavlis mas sakuTari qcevis marTvas, axorcielebs fsiqologiur zewolas masze. am dros aRsazrdelis SesaZleblobebi, piradi iniciativa da Sexedulebebi ugulebelyofilia. urTierTobis demokratiuli stili warmoadgens aRsazrdelze centrirebul aRzrdis stils, romelic uzrunvelyofs bavSvis aqtiur pozicias.
– ras gulisxmobT bavSvis aqtiur poziciaSi?
– bavSvi, am SemTxvevaSi aRsazrdeli, miiCneva partniorad, zrdasTan erTad man ufro da ufro damoukideblad da sakuTari pasuxismgeblobis SegnebiT unda imoqmedos. mSobeli, anu aRmzrdeli qmnis ndobisa da urTierTgagebis pirobebs, uyalibebs aRsazrdels `Cven~ damokidebulebas – erToblivi qmedebis survils, aswavlis sakuTari qcevis marTvas, disciplina xdeba TviTregulirebadi, TviTmarTvadi. maSasadame, am dros sufevs Ria komunikacia, sadac bavSvis Tvalsazrisi mosmenili da gaTvaliswinebulia.
– maSin rogoria urTierTobis liberaluri stili?
– liberaluri stilia, rodesac ufrosebi cdiloben TanamSromlobas, magram gadawyvetilebis miRebisas `saboloo sityva~ bavSvs ekuTvnis. aRmzrdelebi gamoirCevian zedmeti tolerantobiT aRsazrdelTa saqcielis mimarT, bavSvebi iSviaTad kontroldebian, amitom isinic ver akontroleben TavianT impulsebs da dabali aqvT piradi pasuxismgeblobis Segneba.
– vTanxmdebiT, rom bavSvebTan erTad, mSoblebic rTul procesebs gadian. am SemTxvevaSi, ras urCevT axalbeda da aramxolod axalbeda mSoblebs?
– axalbeda mSoblebs vurCevdi, Tavidanve Seecadon, rom iTanamSromlon da ar marTon TavianTi Svilebi. am unaris ganviTarebiT Zalian bevr rames iswavlian bavSvebi: magaliTad, imas, Tu rogor integrirdnen sociumTan, CamouyalibdeT swori urTierTobebi da iyvnen mizandasaxulebi.
– ramdenad mniSvnelovania mSoblebis, rogorc dedis, aseve, mamis Tanabari CarTuloba aRzrdis procesSi?
– mSoblebis Tanabari CarTuloba Zalian mniSvnelovania, radgan aseT dros bavSvi, pirvel rigSi, swavlobs sakuTari Tavis siyvaruls, aqvs swori TviTSefaseba da samyaros adekvaturi aRqma. kvlevebis Tanaxmad, im mSoblebis Svilebs, romlebic Tanabrad arian CarTuli aRzrdis procesSi, naklebad uviTardebaT arasrulfasovnebis kompleqsi, advilad gadaaqvT gardatexis asakisTvis damaxasiaTebeli sirTuleebi da martivad aRweven warmatebas.
– dabolos, mSobloba ras SeiZleba SevadaroT?
– mSobloba SemiZlia Sevadaro samsaxurs Svebulebis gareSe da bunebrivia, rom am procesSi mSobeli gadaiRalos da Secdomebi dauSvas. Cemi rCeva iqneba, ar fokusirdeT mxolod Secdomebze da datkbiT SvilebTan urTierTobiT.
