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dRes saqarTveloSi da albaT, mTel civilizebul samyaroSi Svilebi damoukideblad da, xSir SemTxvevaSi, `martoni~ izrdebian. es gaucxoeba, metwilad, maTSi xasiaTis cvlilebasac iwvevs. rogor mivudgeT mozards, rogor aRvzardoT sworad, ra unda gavakeToT maTi keTilganwyobis mosapoveblad da saerTod, ratom mogvmarTaven mSoblebs saxelebiT, am da mkiTxvelisTvis saintereso sxva sakiTxebze fsiqologi manana devaZe gvesaubreba.
– madloba, qalbatono manana, interviusTvis. upirvelesad, agvixseniT, bavSvebi mSoblebs saxelebiT ratom mimarTaven? rogorc fsiqologi, rogor fiqrobT, es qmedeba Svilis protestia raime sakiTxis mimarT Tu ubralod, ase moswonT?
– pirvel rigSi, mogesalmebiT. xSirad bavSvebi mSoblebs saxelebiT mimarTaven, ara marto axla, Tanamedrove Tineijerebi, aramed ukve zrdasruli adamianebic ki. faqtia, rom SesaZloa, orazrovani Sexedulebebi gamoikveTos am sakiTxze msjelobisas. viRac ivaraudebs, rom es aris Tanamedrove tendencia siaxlovis da Tavisufali, megobruli urTierTobis gamosaxatavad, an protesti da Sedegi bavSvisTvis miuRebeli, konkretuli aRzrdis stilidan gamomdinare an/da mSobelTan urTierTobis deficitidan gamomdinare. rogorc viciT, adamianebi gansxvavdebian erTmaneTisgan rogorc xasiaTiT, aseve msoflmxedvelobiT, damokidebulebebiTa da SexedulebebiT, aqve viciT, rom viRac eqstrovertia, viRac introverti, Sesabamisad, mizezic sxvadasxva individs gansxvavebuli SeiZleba hqondes. aris SemTxveva, rodesac bavSvi emociurad Sordeba mSobels an, Tundac, ojaxis sxva ufros wevrs. es problema gansakuTrebiT maSin iCens Tavs, rodesac mSobels SvilTan urTierTobisTvis ar scalia. erT SemTxvevaSi, saxeliT mimarTvis mizezi SesaZloa, namdvilad emociuri daSoreba da barieri iyos mSobelsa da Svils Soris, rac, samwuxarod, arcTu ise iSviaTad xdeba Cvens sazogadoebaSi da sabolood, vlindeba ara marto konkretul qcevebSi, aramed mSoblisTvis mimarTvis formaSic ki. meore mxriv, es SesaZloa mibaZviT, Tanamedrove tendenciad qceuli siaxlovis gamoxatuleba iyos, rac gulisxmobs uSualo urTierTobas mSobelsa da Svils Soris, sadac didi da patara ar arsebobs, sadac mSobeli da Svili erT doneze dgas. Svili Tavs Tavisufal pirovnebad grZnobs, mSobels aRiqvams megobrad da droTa ganmavlobaSi iwyebs saxeliT mimarTvas, misdauneburad, im uTanasworobisa da barieris Camosangrevad, romelic qarTul sazogadoebaSi stereotipad iyo qceuli. maSasadame, am kiTxvaze swor pasuxad SesaZloa orive varianti ganvixiloT.
– Svilis sworad aRsazrdelad ra meTods unda mimarTos im mSobelma, romelic dakavebulia da dros xSirad ver atarebs masTan?
– Svilis aRzrdisas mniSvnelovania, mSobelma gaiTvaliswinos Semdegi rCevebi: pirvel rigSi, mSobeli Tanmimdevruli unda iyos SvilTan urTierTobisas, ufro konkretulad ki – dRes Tu raRac ar SeiZleba imitom, rom mcalia, ar niSnavs imas, rom xval rom ar mecleba misTvis, SesaZlebeli da nebadarTuli iqneba is, rac wina dRiT avukrZale… Tu Tanmimdevruloba dairRveva SvilTan midgomisas, kargs verafers miviRebT. aseve, mniSvnelovania, rom mSobelma dRis ganmavlobaSi, minimum, Tundac 30 wuTi dauTmos SvilTan emociur urTierTobas, sadac ar iqneba valdebulebebi, davalebebi, sayvedurebi, telefoni da sxva nebismieri ram, rac gamoiwvevs emociuri urTierTobis Camoyalibebis Seferxebas. mniSvnelovania, am dros visaubroT SvilTan ganvlil dReze, emociebze, ra gauxarda? ra ewyina? rogor gaatara dro? SesaZloa, am dros dakavdnen raime aqtivobiT, romelic bavSvisTvis saxaliso da sainteresoa. aucilebelia, mSobelma SvilTan gamoxatos megobruli damokidebuleba, empaTia, upirobo siyvaruli da mimRebloba, rac Svils miscems berkets, rom endos mSobels, Tundac krizisul situaciebSi. aqve, kargi iqneba Tu mSobeli modelirebis saSualebiT aswavlis Svils jansaR qcevasa da urTierTobas. ai, magaliTad, rodesac mSobeli samsaxuridan daRlili modis saxlSi, ar unda hqondes is damokidebuleba, rom is daRlilia da Svili ara. gavixsenoT, rogor viRlebodiT gakveTilebis Semdeg saxlSi wasvlisas. marTalia, energias saTamaSod kargad vikrefdiT, magram TamaSic rom iwvevs daRlas faqtia. amitom sjobs, empaTia gamovxatoT SvilTan da masac ganvuviTaroT es unari, vTxovoT daxmareba Tundac magidis gawyobaSi, vaCvenoT da davavaloT, ra asakisac ar unda iyos. modelireba nebismier sasurvel qcevasa da damokidebulebebze amarTlebs molodinebs. aseve, mniSvnelovania, rom SvilTan urTierTobisas mSoblebsa da, qarTuli realobidan gamomdinare, ojaxis sxva wevrebsac, SemuSavebuli hqondeT aRzrdis erTnairi stili, romliTac ixelmZRvaneleben maTTan urTierTobisas. es da zemoaRniSnuli meTodebi samsaxuriT dakavebul mSoblebs da ara marto maT, yvelaze metad waadgebaT Svilis `sworad~ aRzrdaSi.
– xSirad mSoblebs uWirT SvilebTan komunikacia, miaCniaT, rom mozardebs rTuli xasiaTi aqvT. . .
– mozardobisas bavSvi cdilobs sakuTari mes koncefciisa da identobis gaazrebas, is cdilobs mozardobidan zrdasrulobaSi swrafad gadasvlas, Sesabamisad, zogierT mozards axasiaTebs radikaluri qcevebi. isini cdiloben sakuTari azris ara mxolod dafiqsirebas, aramed dacvas, radac ar unda daujdeT is. . . TaobaTa Soris konfliqti TaobaTa cvlis Tanmdevi movlenaa, es sakiTxi yovelTvis iyo aqtualuri, axlac aris da mudam iqneba. faqtia, xandaxan mSoblebs Zalian uWirT saerTo enis gamoZebna SvilebTan, miuxedavad imisa, rom yvelafers akeTeben masTan dasamegobreblad da xandaxan ukiduresobaSic vardebian. mniSvnelovania oqros Sualedis daWera, megobroba da amave dros valdebulebebis swavleba, damoukideblobis miniWeba, pasuxismgeblobis ganawileba. mniSvnelovania, rom maT vaswavloT is unarebi, rac sWirdebaT zrdasrul adamianebs imisTvis, rom zrdasrulebad iwodebodnen! aucilebelia, Svils davutovoT piradi sivrce, uxasiaTobisas ar vaiZuloT mizezis Tqma. am dros SegviZlia Tundac sxva saSualebiT vecadoT misi cudi ganwyobis mizezis garkvevas. SesaZloa Svils Zalian kargi urTierToba hqondes mSobelTan, magram raRac ver uTxras, imitom, rom mzad ar iyos amisTvis. Cven, mSoblebma Svils unda movumzadoT niadagi imisTvis, rom mzaoba Camouyalibdes droTa ganmavlobaSi da dRes Tu ara xval Tavad gviTxras ganwyobis cvlilebis mizezi. imisaTvis, rom Svili Ria iyos mSobelTan, man unda igrZnos mSoblisgan gamgebianoba, upirobo mxardaWera da siyvaruli.
– mozardebSi, ZiriTadad, ra garemoeba iwvevs mSoblebTan gaucxoebas?
– mozardebSi mSoblebTan gaucxoebas bevri faqtori SeiZleba iwvevdes,. kerZod, xasiaTis gansxvavebuloba, sxvadasxva interesebi, damokidebulebebi, Sexedulebebi, aseve, erTmaneTis SexedulebebiTa Tu damokidebulebebiT dauinteresebloba, Svilis azris upativcemuloba da arafrad Cagdeba, kerZod, Semdegi winadadebiT xelmZRvaneloba: ,,me rogorc vambob, isea, imitom, rom me didi var, gamocdili var da Senze meti vici“, aseve, cudia gadawyvetilebis miReba SvilTan dakavSirebiT misi azris gaTvaliswinebis gareSe, misi grZnobebisa da azrebis ugulebelyofa, kritika (gansakuTrebiT sxvebis TandaswrebiT) da bolos, Svilis hormonaluri cvlilebebiT gamowveuli sirTuleebis, aseve, asakobrivi, mentaluri da gonebrivi ganviTarebis etapebis, gamowvevebis saWiro doneze arcodna, rac sabolood, SvilTan urTierTobaSi problemaTa Taiguls gviqmnis.
– ramdenad xSirad mogmarTaven mSoblebi msgavsi problemebiT?
– dResdReobiT, SvilTan urTierTobaSi arsebuli problemebi da masTan swori komunikaciis saWiroeba, Svilis fsiqologiuri mdgomareoba da emociuri distresi mSobelTa momarTvianobis erT-erTi xSiri mizezia.
– iqneb gviTxraT, erTi dRis ,`instruqcia~, rogor unda moviqceT mozardTan, sad waviyvanoT, raze vesaubroT da Semdeg?
– erTi dRis rutina sxvadasxva asakSi gansxvavebulia, mza recepti imisa, Tu ra da ris Semdeg unda gaakeToT, ar arsebobs, Tumca arsebobs is rCevebi, romlebic dagexmarebaT, konkretuli bavSvis xasiaTis da asakis gaTvaliswinebiT, produqtiuli dRis dagegmvaSi. mniSvnelovania, icodeT Svilis interesis sfero, aseve saWiroeba, rac aqvs. mniSvnelovania, aRiaroT, rom Svili, ra asakisac ar unda iyos, aris calke pirovneba, romelsac aqvs Tavisi azri, Sexeduleba da damokidebulebebi da rogori gansxvavebulic ar unda iyos Cveni damokidebulebebisgan, pativi unda vceT mis azrs. dRe unda daiwyoT pozitiurad, dadebiTi emociiT. mniSvnelovania, jansaRi kveba erTad, kerZod, magida gaawyveT erToblivad, Semdgom miusxediT da erTad miirTviT Tqvenive naxelavi. kargi iqneba Tu tradiciad aqcevT magidis gawyobas da erTad mirTmevas. winaswar gansazRvreT dRis ganmavlobaSi ris Semdgom ras gaakeTebT, dRis ganmavlobaSi gawereT jer aucilebeli aqtivobebi, romelebic SesaZloa dRis rutinis ganuyofeli nawili iyos (valdebulebebi/saskolo davalebebis momzadeba) da Semdgom gantvirTva Svilis interesebis gaTvaliswinebiT, romelSic Tqvenc aqtiurad iqnebiT CarTuli. es SeiZleba iyos seirnoba da saubari Tundac yofiT sakiTxebze da interesis sferoze, koncertze wasvla, xatva, TamaSi, moedanze wasvla sagulSematkivrod da sxva bevri saerTo da saintereso aqtivobiT dakaveba. maSasadame, dRis rutinis SemuSavebisTvis saWiro rekomendaciebi, romlebzec zemoT visaubre, arsebobs, Tumca misi SemuSavebis universaluri nimuSi – ara. misi Sedgena SesaZlebelia konkretuli individis xasiaTis Taviseburebebisa da mis irgvliv arsebuli garemo pirobebis gaTvaliswinebiT.
