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axali dRe gvaZlevs ganviTarebis, winsvlis, ufro metis swavlis SesaZleblobas. rac dro gadis, ufro unda gvesmodes momavlis da metad vfiqrobdeT yvela win gadasadgmel nabijze.
sakmarisia, odnav mainc gavaRoT Cveni oTaxis patara fanjara, iqidan mzem SemogvanaTos da Segvaxsenos, rom gareT 21-e saukunea.
erTi SexedviT, 21-e saukune sazogadoebis azrovnebis da zneobriv ganviTarebas unda moicavdes, magram adamianebis raRac nawilis azrovnebas jer kidev ver miuRwevia ganviTarebis im etapamde, rom Zaladobaze uari Tqvas.
Zaladoba – es erTgvar senad iqca, romelic saqarTveloSic gaxSirda. Cvens didebul qveyanaSi, sadac qarTveloba gveamayeba, TiTqmis yovel dRe vxvdebiT qalTa mimarT Zaladobis faqtebs da rTulia, am yvelaferze pasuxi ar gvqondes.
qarTul sufraze yovelTvis aRtkinebiT, siyvaruliTa da didi pativiscemiT ismeba qalbatonebis sadRegrZelo, magram zogierTi kacis mxridan es mxolod sityvebia. dRes iseT realobaSi vcxovrobT, rom sufraze naqeb qals, SeiZleba, saxlSi wasvlis Semdeg Seuracxyofa miayenon, mis mimarT fsiqologiuri da fizikuri Zaladoba gamoiCinon, sufrasTan naTqvami yoveli sityva ki azrs kargavs. . .
samwuxarod, bolo periodSi gansakuTrebiT gaxSirda Zaladobis faqtebi, statistika sagangaSoa. axlaxan, Zaladobis ukiduresi formis, femicidis msxverpli gaxda 14 wlis gogona, ramac sazogadoeba SeZra da kidev erTxel dagvafiqra imaze, Tu ra rTuli gzis gavla uwevT qalebs.
aRniSnul TemasTan dakavSirebiT. vesaubreT fsiqolog alina gurgeniZes, romelic ufro ukeT Cagvaxedebs am problemis arss da dRevandel realobaSi.
– namdvilad, qalTa mimarT Zaladobis faqtebi gaxSirda. Tqveni azriT, ram ganapiroba es?
– bolo dros gansakuTrebiT gaizarda qalTa mimarT Zaladobis SemTxvevaTa statistikuri momacemebi saqarTveloSi, rac SesaZloa, bevri mizeziT aixsnas – umuSevroba da siRaribe, urTierTobebisa da komunikaciis arajansaRi forma, tradicia, ganaTlebis dabali done da naklebad realizebuli meore naxevrebi/partniorebi. mogexsenebaT, bolo wlebSi saqarTveloSi qalebis roli gaizarda, isini gaxdnen ufro warmatebulebi, realizebulebi, finansurad metad gaZlierdnen, Sesabamisad, ufro damoukideblebi arian, rac iwvevs zogierT mamakacis mxridan usafuZvlo eWvianobas, maTi Zalis demonstrirebas imisaTvis, rom TavianTi Zalaufleba daamtkicon da swored am yvelafers mivyavarT iseT ukidures Sedegebamde, rogoric femicidia.
– sazogadoebaSi, garkveulwilad, Camoyalibda azri, rom moZalade kacebi bavSvobaSi Tavad iyvnen Zaladobis mrxverplni. es mosazreba safuZvliania, Tu raRac gansakuTrebul fsiqologiur darRvevasTan gvaqvs saqme?
– yvela adamiani, romelic warsulSi ganicdida raime saxis Zaladobas, aucileblad moZalade ar xdeba, Tumca didia albaToba, man gamoavlinos amgvari qceva. arsebobs ramdenime faqtori, romelic Semdgom, zrdasrulobaSi, iCens Tavs. magaliTad, bavSvobis droindeli travma: bevria SemTxveva, rodesac moZalade mamakaci warsulSi Tavad ganicdida sxvadaxva saxis Zaladobas, rogoric aris fizikuri, emociuri an seqsualuri. travmuli gamocdileba, ra Tqma unda, iwvevs uZlurebis, sibrazis da dabali TviTSefasebis gancdas, rac SemdgomSi aris ganmapirobebeli imisa, rom Tavad xdeba moZalade.
Semdegi faqtoria, Tu bavSvi aris Zaladobis mowme: iseT ojaxSi sadac Zaladobdnen sxvaze, SesaZloa bavSvisTvis es qceva normalizdes. garemo, sadac bavSvi iTvisebs pirvel socialur unar-Cvevebs, aris saxli. Tuki am garemoSi igi uyurebs Zaladobis scenebs, fiqrobs, rom aseTi komunikaciis forma misaRebi da dasaSvebia, radganac im etapisTvis avtoritets warmoadgenen deda da mama. aRzrdis araadekvaturi meqanizmebi da fsiqikuri janmrTelobis problemebi: im SemTxvevaSi, Tu mSobeli iyenebda liberaluri aRzrdis tips da, Sesabamisad, pirovneba gaizarda rogorc didi bavSvi, mas socialur garemoSi xSirad aqvs problemebi, ganicdis imedgacruebas, stress, samsaxurSi ver realizdeba, radgan yvelaferi ise ar xdeba, rogorc mas surs, megobrebTan aqvs problemebi, finansuri krizisi. sabolood, mTeli es dagrovili negatiuri emociebi ojaxze gadaaqvs da xdeba moZalade.
– ratom Cerdeba qali moZalade qmarTan? ra faqtorebi uSlis xels misgan Tavis daRwevaSi?
– saqarTveloSi bevri faqtoria, ris gamoc Cerdeba qali moZalade mamakacTan, Tumca gamovyof ramdenimes: piradi safrTxis SiSi, religia da kultura, finansebis arqona, naadrevi qorwineba, mravalSvilianoba, ganaTlebis arqona, dabali TviTSefaseba, Tanadamokidebuleba, mxardaWeris nakleboba, emociuri da fsiqologiuri Zaladoba, izolacia moZaladis mier da sxva. xSir SemTxvevaSi, ramdenime faqtoria erTmaneTTan gadajaWvuli. qalma arasrulwlovan asakSi Seqmna ojaxi, ver SeZlo srulyofili ganaTlebis miReba, ar aqvs konkretuli profesia, riTac SeZlebs dasaqmebas, hyavs 3 an 4 Svili, ar aqvs muSaobis gamocdileba, finansurad damokidebulia qmarze, Sesabamisad, aqvs dabali TviTSefaseba, cxovrobs iseT socialur garemoSi, sadac naklebi mxardaWera aqvs – es yvelaferi aiZulebs moZaladesTan Tanacxovrebas.
– ZiriTadad, ra tipis Zaladobis msxverpli arian qalebi? ras gviCvenebs kvlevebi?
– ZiriTadad, dRes qalebi ganicdian fizikur Zaladobas, rac gulisxmobs fizikuri Zalis gamoyenebas sxva adamianze. gavrcelebulia, aseve, emociuri da fsiqologiuri Zaladoba – rodesac emociebze, TviTSefasebaze axdens kontrols moZalade da emociurad manipulirebs; seqsualuri Zaladoba – arakonsensualuri seqsualuri qmedeba; ekonomikuri da finansuri Zaladoba. bolo dros gaxSirda moZalade mamakacebisgan kiberbulingi – negatiuri komentarebi, araeTikuri videobisa da fotoebis gaziareba da sxva.
– Tqven, rogorc fsiqologs, albaT Zalian bevr Zaladobis msxverpl qalTan gqoniaT Sexvedra. xom ar gaixsenebT gansakuTrebul SemTxvevas?
– Zaladobisgan dacvis erovnul qselSi roca vmuSaobdi, qalze Zaladobis araerTi SemTxveva yofila. maT Soris, gavixseneb erT-erTs, rodesac aWaraSi qalze qmari da qmris ojaxi Zaladobda fizikurad, emociurad da finansurad. amyofebdnen boselSi, manipulirebdnen bavSvebiT da uzRudavdnen maTTan komunikacias. qals mxars arc mSoblebi uWerdnen. Zaladobis faqtTan dakavSirebiT msxverplma mimarTa Cvens organizacias, razec moxda myisieri reagireba. msxverpli gadaviyvaneT krizisul centrSi, daeniSna advokati, uzrunvelvyaviT piradi higienuri nivTebiT da tansacmliT, ris Semdegac daiwyo samarTlebrivi procesi.
– gvxvdeba SemTxvevebi, rodesac Zaladobrivi qmedebebi ar aRiqmeba konkretuli subieqtis mxridan Zaladobad da normad iTvleba. xSirad aris midgoma, rom ojaxis saqmeSi sxva ar unda Caerios an qali imsaxurebda da Rirsicaa, rom scemes. rogor xsniT amgvar midgomas?
– kulturuli da religiuri faqtorebi dResac did gavlenas axdens sazogadobis damokidebulebebze, Tumca kargia is, rom aseTi damokidebuleba umetesad, ufros Taobas axasiaTebs da dRevandeli axalgazrdebi naklebad gamoirCevian msgavsi faqtebis mimarT nihilisturi damokidebulebiT. cnobierebis done amaRalda sazogadoebaSi am kuTxiT, Tumca gvxvdeba faqtebic, rodesac ar iRebs pasuxismgeblobas sazogadoeba momxdarze. es, SesaZloa, ori faqtoriT avxsnaT: erTia, rodesac gaizardnen ideiT, rom sxvisi ojaxis saqmeSi ar unda Caerion, rom qali valdebulia, akeTos is, rac qmars surs da Tu qmari scems, esec qalis araswori qmedebiT aris gamowveuli an meore faqtori, rodesac Tavad msxverpls imdenad ver warmoudgenia moZaladis gareSe cxovreba, aqvs Tanadamokidebuleba. Tavad imdenad sjera, rom TviTon aris damnaSave da Rirsia am yvelafris, amarTlebs qmris amgvar saqciels da uars ambobs sxvis raime saxiT Carevaze.
– zogadad, rogoria sazogadoebis damokidebuleba Zaladobis msxverpli qalebis mimarT?
– sazogadoebis damokidebulebas Zaladobis msxverpli qalebis mimarT pozitiurad ver Sevafaseb. xSiria SemTxvevebi, rodesac Tavad mdedrobiTi sqesis warmomadgenlebi awebeben iarliyebs Zaladobis msxverpl qalebs da ganixilaven negatiur konteqstSi, rac samwuxaroa. sazogadoebam unda aiRos pasuxismgebloba msgavs faqtebze, radganac Cven vqmniT dRevandel realobas, Cven unda SevikavoT Tavi sxvadasxva stereotipisa da dogmebis gamyarebisa Tu Camoyalibebisgan.
– rogor aisaxeba qalebze Zaladobis Sedegebi?
– qalebi Zaladobis Semdeg ganicdian SiSs, SfoTvas, Soks, depresias, undoblobas. isini SesaZloa, wuxdnen Semdgomi Tavdasxmebis safrTxeze. grZnoben Zlier brazs momxdaris gamo da xSiria SemTxveva, rodesac sakuTar Tavs adanaSauleben incidentSi, aqvT sircxvilis grZnoba mezoblebis, naTesavebis mimarT.
– saxelmwifo ra prevenciul zomebs atarebs aRniSnuli problemis mosagvareblad?
– ojaxSi Zaladobis faqtze, droebiTi RonisZiebis saxiT, gamoiyeneba damcavi da Semakavebeli orderi, vada aris 30 dRe. damcavi orderi gaicema sasamarTlos mier, mimarTvidan 10 dRis vadaSi. msxverpls SeuZlia aWaraSi arsebuli droebiTi TavSesafriT sargebloba. regionSi aris dedaTa da bavSvTa TavSesafari, im SemTxvevaSi Tu erT-erTi bavSvi aris 10 wlamde asakis, Zaladobis mxverpl qals SeuZlia isargeblos am TavSesafriT.
– ras urCevdiT qalebs, romlebic amJamad Zaladobis mZime pirobebSi cxovroben?
– Zvirfaso qalbatonebo, girCevT, daZlioT sirTuleebi da prioritetad aqcioT sakuTari Tavi da Tqveni Svilebi. mniSvnelovania rogorc fizikuri, aseve fsiqologiuri janmrTeloba, amitom daukavSirdiT ojaxuri Zaladobis mxverplTa sakonsultacio cxel xazs – 116 006; sagangebo da gadaudebel daxmarebas – 112; uflebaTa damcvel organizacias `partnioroba adamianis uflebebisTvis – 032 233 13. uflebadamcvel organizacia `safars~ – 599 40 76 03.
regionSi aris sxvadasxva kerZo seqtori, romelic gagiwevT ufaso fsiqologiur momsaxurebas rogorc Tqven, aseve Tqvens Svilebs. Zaladobas ar aqvs gamarTleba, Tqven imyofebiT arajansaR garemoSi, araferi Seicvleba, Tuki gadawyvetT moZaladesTan darCenas.
