ქალსა და მამაკაცს შორის არის გაცილებით მეტი მსგავსება, ვიდრე განსხვავება
manana takiZe 577 10 15 17 –
Zaladobas sqesi ar gaaCnia
ra klavs siyvaruls?
ra SemTxvevaSia misi SenarCuneba SesaZlebeli? ra aris bednieri Tanacxovrebis saidumloს gasaRebi? – am maradiul SekiTxvebze pasuxebsac adamianebi, rogorc qalebi, ise mamakacebi, yvela epoqaSi eZeben. dRes maTze gvipasuxebs bsu-s iuridiuli da socialur mecnierebaTa fakultetis asocirebuli profesori, fsiqologiis klinikis xelmZRvaneli qeTevan beriZe.
– ra ZiriTadi gansxvavebebia qalisa da mamakacis fsiqologias Soris?
– masobriv cnobierebaSi arsebobs Sexeduleba, rom qalebi da mamakacebi Zalian gansxvavdebian erTmaneTisagan. Tvlian, rom mamakaci aris aqtiuri, ambiciuri, racionaluri, damoukidebeli da araemociuri, xolo qali – nazi, mgrZnobiare, emociuri, damokidebuli, pasiuri. sazogadoebaSi aseve arsebobs mosazreba, rom qalebsa da mamakacebs Soris arsebuli gansxvavebebi ganpirobebulia maTi biologiuri TaviseburebebiT da xSirad srulebiT ar axseneben imas, rom qalsa da mamakacs Soris aris gacilebiT meti msgavseba, vidre gansxvaveba, Tumca aris pirovnuli maxasiaTeblebi, romelTa mixedviTac arsebobs genderuli sxvaobebi. emociurobaSi arsebul genderul gansxvavebebs bevri fsiqologi xsnis gogonebisa da biWebis gansxvavebuli aRzrdiT. iungis Tanaxmad, biWebis aRzrdis procesSi xdeba emociebis CaxSoba maSin, roca gogonebSi dominirebs emociebis gamovlena. tradiciulad, mamakacebis mier grZnobebis gamovlena araa miRebuli, rac gamoxatulia emociuri simtkicis normaSi, amasTanave, mamakacebi da qalebi gansxvavdebian sxvadasxva emociis gamoxatvaSi: is, rac `Sesaferisia~ qalisTvis (tirili, sentimentaloba, SiSi), arasakadrisia kacisTvis da is, rac `Seefereba~ kacs (risxvis, agresiis gamovlena~), `Seuferebelia~ qalisTvis.
– ramdenad uSlis, an exmareba maT urTierTobebSi es gansxvavebebi?
– zogierT SemTxvevaSi es aris xelis SemSleli, gansakuTrebiT maSin, rodesac mamakaci ar iTvaliswinebs partnioris azrs da Tvlis, rom ojaxSi ZiriTad da mniSvnelovan gadawyvetilebas Tavad unda iRebdes, rac SesaZloa gaxdes maT Soris konfliqtis mizezi, Tumca zogierT SemTxvevaSi gansxvavebebi xels uwyobs harmoniul urTierTobas. kerZod, Tu erTs uyvars bevri laparaki da meores urCevnia mosmena, SeZleben bednier Tanacxovrebas.
– yvelaze xSirad ra saxis uTanxmoeba xdeba wyvilis konfliqtis mizezi da rogor SeiZleba maTi Tavidan arideba?
– nebismieri cxovrebiseuli sakiTxi SesaZlebelia gaxdes konfliqtis mizezi da aseve, krizisuli periodebis SemTxvevaSi erTi da igive, klasikuri, mizezi iwvevs konfliqts, kerZod, axaldaqorwinebulobis xanaSi, bavSvis dabadebis dros da ase Semdeg.
– aris Tu ara mogebiani TamaSi, anu erT-erTi partnioris mcdeloba, Seesabamebodes mewyvilis moTxovnebs?
– ara, ra Tqma unda, radgan aseT SemTxvevaSi adamiani uars ambobs sakuTar survilebze, interesebze, ramac SeiZleba miiyvanos sakuTari Tavis dakargvamde. Tu es grZeldeba wlebis ganmavlobaSi da garkveuli periodis Semdeg gaacnobierebs sakuTar qcevas, SeiZleba mohyves mwvave reaqcia.
– ras urCevT im qalebs, romlebsac profesiuli da pirovnuli zrdis survili aqvT, magram partniori misgan mxolod diasaxlisobas, an raime sxvas (kompanionobas, megobrobas) moiTxovs.
– vurCevdi, dafiqrebuliyo, vis gverdiT imyofeba. sadac WeSmariti grZnobaa, iq zewola, akrZalvebi da ultimatumebi ar arsebobs. jansaRi ojaxuri urTierTobis mteri gaxlavT Zaladoba.
– Tqveni azriT, sad gadis zRvari gonivrul daTmobasa da morCilebas Soris?
– ojaxuri urTierToba gulisxmobs garkveul daTmobas, erTmaneTis mosmenas da angariSis gawevas, erTmaneTis azris pativiscemas da gaTvaliswinebas, xolo morCilebis SemTxvevaSi Seni nebis sawinaaRmdegod moqmedeb, Sesabamisad, mas ganvixilavT rogorc Zaladobriv qcevas.
– ra aris ojaxuri an ubralod, wyvilis stabiluri urTierTobis ganmsazRvreli?
– siyvaruli, urTierTpativiscema, saerTo interesebi, ganaTlebis da socialuri mdgomareobis Tanabari done.
– mogexsenebaT, xSirad grZnoba ukvalod qreba, Tqveni azriT, ra SemTxvevaSi uZlebs siyvaruli qalsa da mamakacs Soris dros?
– stabilurobaze gavlenas axdens colis saqmianobis xasiaTic, saxeldobr, axerxebs Tu ara igi saojaxo saqmeebis Sexamebas samuSaosTan, Tu Tavisi drois ZiriTad nawils uTmobs ojaxur saqmianobas. harmoniuli ojaxuri urTierTobebisTvis saWiroa orive meuRlis ormxrivi fsiqologiuri keTildReoba. am situaciaSi didi mniSvneloba aqvs ojaxuri rolebis samarTlian ganawilebas.
– saerTod, daTmoba xom kargia, magram sanamde?
– daTmoba da ara kompromisi, Tu es ar scildeba adamianis moTxovnilebebs.
– rogor fiqrobT, ra aris xSirad ojaxuri Zaladobis mizezi?– Zaladobis gamomwvevi mizezi xSirad aris: siRaribe, nivTierebebze damokidebuleba, avadmyofi bavSvi, umuSevroba, depresia, dromoWmuli tradiciebi, pirovnuli Tvisebebi, ganaTlebis gansxvavebuli done, gansxvavebuli interesebi, genderuli stereotipebi.
– xSiria qalTa mimarT Zaladoba, Tumca, mamakacebic xdebian maTi mxridan msxverplni.
– Zaladobas sqesi ar gaaCnia. ra Tqma unda, aris SemTxvevebi, roca qali manipulirebs, kerZod, iyenebs bavSvs mamakacis dasasjelad. gansakuTrebiT, es garemoeba vlindeba gayris SemTxvevaSi. zogadad, sqesTa Soris gansxvavebulia Zaladobis forma, kerZod, qalebi umetes SemTxvevaSi mimarTaven emociuri Zaladobis formas da ugulebelyofas, xolo mamakacebi fizikur Zaladobasac.
– Tqveni azriT, ra aris stabilurobisa da harmoniis SenarCunebis saidumlo da ras urCevdiT wyvilebs?
– pirvel rigSi, yvelas vurCev uyvardeT da pativi scen sakuTar Tavs, ikmayofilebdnen survilebs da uars ar ambobdnen sakuTar miswrafebebze, iyvnen gulwrfelni urTierTobaSi. mxolod amis Semdeg aris SesaZlebeli, giyvardes da pativs scemde meore adamians.